Thoughts On My 68th Birthday - October 3, 2012

Thoughts on my 68^th Birthday

A lot of years have passed me by,

And now I’m sixty-eight,

Don’t have too many wrinkles,

And I’ve even lost some weight!

Though I feel a bit more weary,

And my bones do ache and creak,

I have to say, I really don’t,

Feel that I’m antique.

I wish I had more money,

So I could dress in style,

And drink a really special wine,

At least once in awhile!

But all the “queens” are still here,

And other friends so true,

I have a smile upon my face,

And can’t say I’m feeling blue!

I can still put on eyeshadow,

It doesn’t end up on my nose,

And I’ve taken off a lot of weight,

So I’m wearing nicer clothes!

I’ve spent many months in India,

It’s what I’ve always hoped to do.

It shows that, even older gals,

Have dreams that can come true!

Carmen Henesy

Copyright (c) October 3, 2012 by Carmen Henesy
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Magpie Tales 71 - The Eyes Have It - July 3, 2011

I am nearing sixty-seven,

With aches and pains, it's true,

But I really like my trademark eyes,

In every shade and hue!

With fifty years of practice,

It's so much a part of me,

I match the outfit of the day,

With no colors less than three!

I could paint the Sistine Chapel,

With the shadows I possess,

But I always want another,

To match that very special dress!

As I age, it gets much harder,

To get it all on right,

Soon I'll have to give it up.

Or I might just look a fright.

BUT, should I win the lottery,

I will see if I can find,

A resident make up artist,

To give me peace of mind.

Carmen Henesy

Copyright (c) 2011 by Carmen Henesy

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Guilty

I was on telephone standby at the beginning of the week for a trial for a case I did back in 2005.  I met with the district attorney about a month ago to go over the record.  I didn't really remember the case but, of course, it was mine.  I certainly recognized my handwriting  and could testify that it was mine and my documetation is always very thorough and I recorded what the child said to me in quotes, in great detail.  I explained to the D. A. that, over the course of eleven years, as a sexual assault nurse examiner at the San Francisco Rape Treatment Center, I did nearly five hundred exams myself.  During my 21 years at CASARC, the Child and Adolescent Sexual Abuse Resource Center, I probably was involved with about a thousand child cases, either assisting with exams, documenting histories, and doing child forensic interviews.  I deliberately did not try to recall these cases.  Once they were over, I tried to put them from my mind until I needed to recall them.  This was my way of taking care of myself.

Tuesday, I had an email from the district attorney saying the defendant pled guilty so I will not have to testify.  Great!  Now that I am retired, I no longer get paid when I have to go to court which is annoying!  It doesn't seem fair.  My parking gets paid and I get paid for mileage but nothing more.  And, in the afternoon mail, I get yet another subpoena for a trial at the end of January!  It says that I am to be available for telephone standby from 1-26-2010 to the completion of the trial.  Well, I already have airline tickets and I am away from San Francisco from 1-29-2010 at 3PM until 2-6-2010 at 6PM.  I hope my testimony can take place on the 27th or 28th of January!

I actually don't mind going to court.  It's been part of the job for the past twenty-one years.  I am not intimidated by the courtroom and I am clear about my role as a forensic nurse.  I testify as to what I did and I don't step outside my scope of practice or my area of expertise.

While I would never discuss the specifics of a case, I can share with you a couple of humorous anecdotes.  In our role as child forensic interviewers, we have a very specific format we follow, all geared toward not asking the child leading questions so that the interview is not disqualified in court.  We begin by introducing ourselves to the child and explaining the room, the fact that others will be watching, and that the interview will be videotaped.  I always tell the child that I am a special nurse whose job it is to talk to children.  I also let them know that there will be no
shots.  

We wear regular clothes, not uniforms, and I usually match my eyeshadow to my clothes, as I have done all my life - usually wearing three different colors.  One day, I had finished my introduction with a five-year-old girl and was well into the interview, when she stopped and looked very closely at me.  "Is there something wrong?" I asked.  "Well, she said, "I was wondering, are you a movie star?"  I guess all that explanation about my being a nurse didn't
make an impact when she saw the eyeshadow!

Another time in court, when the defense attorney. asked the child if he remembered the nurse who took care of him in the middle of the night ( this was about two years later ), he answered emphatically, "Yes."   The defense attorney wanted to know how he could remember something that long ago.  The child answered, "The eyes."

I'm not the only one who gets remembered because of distinguishing facial characteristics.  My dear colleague, for the past 21 years, has always worn bright red lipstick.  Once, when we interviewed siblings, the sisters recalled the nurses with the "eyes" and the "lips" though they couldn't remember our names years later when the district attorney met with them.

We usually end our interviews by thanking the child for coming to talk to us and asking if they have any questions they would like to ask us.  Once, a little boy, very unabashedly asked, "Are you always going to be as fat as you are now?"  Wow, I will really be embarrassed when that video gets played in court.  I hope I'll be a lot skinnier then!!