tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post2749977206233890513..comments2024-03-22T02:19:36.295-07:00Comments on Carmen's Chronicles: NeighborsRNSANEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-89071740904116127992009-12-28T20:36:22.001-08:002009-12-28T20:36:22.001-08:00betchai - I know how close your Philippine
com...betchai - I know how close your Philippine <br /> community is! I actually live in Daly City,<br /> CA which is a large settlement of Filipinos -<br /> my neighborhood grocery is Manila Market - <br /> great for me with access to all the wonderful<br /> Asian vegetables and fruits!!<br /><br />Icy BC - There is a little boy in the house <br /> across the street - we've been waving to<br /> each other since he's been able to pull up<br /> and look out the window. But I haven't a <br /> clue what his folks look like!<br /><br />Ayie - I've never been good at farewells, <br /> either.RNSANEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-17793802542950560632009-12-28T14:00:12.551-08:002009-12-28T14:00:12.551-08:00I hate goodbyes...so sad...
just like betchai, co...I hate goodbyes...so sad...<br /><br />just like betchai, coming from the same country we share such customs. everybody's like family.Ayiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04210270230117772912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-32900695755121580022009-12-28T11:23:49.271-08:002009-12-28T11:23:49.271-08:00A wonderful poem, Carmen.
I hardly know my neighb...A wonderful poem, Carmen. <br />I hardly know my neighbors at all. We wave to say hi and good bye!•°°• IcyBC •°°•https://www.blogger.com/profile/07081029443524398660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-22776056578316338462009-12-28T09:30:22.628-08:002009-12-28T09:30:22.628-08:00i grew up in a country where our neighbors were al...i grew up in a country where our neighbors were almost like my family, but over here, like you, i hardly know our neighbors as well, we all have our lives to live i guess.betchaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04754061874315713589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-90427866438774368262009-12-28T01:35:47.602-08:002009-12-28T01:35:47.602-08:00Welshcakes Limoncello - in Sicily, you seem to hav...Welshcakes Limoncello - in Sicily, you seem to have good neighbors and a great social life!<br /><br />Anna - how lovely to have you visit my blog. I appreciate your very thoughtful comment. I once did a Scandinavian cruise ( many years <br />ago ) that included all the capitals. It was so beautiful sailing past all the islands to Stockholm, where we spent only one day but it was a spectacular city. Since I've now done over 77 cruises with Royal Caribbean, I've made many officer friends from Norway and Sweden who work with the company. I would love to come back and visit for a longer time. <br /><br />Since your winters are so harsh, it would be especially nice then to have good neighbors to visit with and to share babysitting, etc. <br /><br />Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoriti - thirty years in one place! That's great. While I've lived in<br />San Mateo county, a suburb of San Francisco, for that long, I've lived in seven different places!<br /><br />My friend, and former CASARC office mate, has been trying to get me to come and volunteer at SF General. I'm still trying to find a regular paying job! <br /><br />A human kind of human - just recently, on facebook, I reconnected with a neighbor and former Air Force wife that I knew in Tampa, Florida 37 years ago. What fun! This social networking has replaced neighbors to some extent, I guess!RNSANEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-9247382999226167752009-12-28T01:24:01.686-08:002009-12-28T01:24:01.686-08:00Poetic Shutterbug - I think you know half of San...Poetic Shutterbug - I think you know half of San Francisco, especially the "hotties"<br /><br />cornyman - thanks for stopping by my blog. I've learned a lot of valuable information from yours, by the way - especially helpful to a new blogger!<br /><br />I did talk to one of my neighbors a few weeks ago ( we've lived next to each other six years ) and it turns out we were both city/county of San Francisco employees, with the Dept of Public Health! Small world...different areas, though.<br /><br />Sharkbytes - I think it's easier to make friends, too, in your social settings and with people who have the same interests. And, yes, my job was very interesting. I saw and heard every kind of sad case...nothing surprises me anymore.<br /><br />Kamana - I believe city life makes it harder to know your neighbors but, then, in rural areas, you are often pretty distant from neighbors - but you may have to rely on them more for support, etc.<br /><br />Donna - it's been a very quiet, peaceful weekend...just me. I have to confess I was rather lazy!<br /><br />Renee - you are such a sweet person. For the most part, I am very outgoing. My boys always tease me that I will know everyone in a checkout line or at airport security by the time it's my turn. Funny, because my mother is the total opposite!<br /><br />Glynis - I think it would have been hard for someone such as you, moving to a new country, to settle in at first. Of course, you seem very friendly and you write so you would have found your group...it sounds like some are headed back to England but there are others, no?<br /><br />julie - what is different about indiana and ohio? I often wonder about the change in localities. I know, living in the South, I found people friendlier. In Boston, until we moved on the base, it wasn't that way. When we first moved to Orange Co, our cul de sac was wonderful. My former husband still lives there and Shawn loves to visit - they had Christmas dinner with Italian neighbors he's known since he was a child. <br /><br />Mountain Woman - I visited your lovely blog and see that you are in Vermont! There are not so many people in all of that state! When I lived in the Boston area, we visited a few times. How beautiful it is there but the winters are long and cold. A dear friend of mine, a nurse practitioner, moved to Vermont a few years ago. She works at the university hospital in Burlington but lives in a more rural area. She likes it but said it was quite a change from the San Francisco area. By the way, thank you so much for visiting my blog.RNSANEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-51267966186234629702009-12-27T22:58:27.592-08:002009-12-27T22:58:27.592-08:00Hi there, I am also a forces wife, my husband used...Hi there, I am also a forces wife, my husband used to be in the SA Navy and for many years we also lived on bases. What always amazed me was how everybody will gossip about everybody else and there was always some kind of fued between certain women, BUT when tragedy or hardship struck, EVERYBODY stood together and supported one another. I also had some very close friends in those days and I am lucky to say that I am still close to one of them. We also moved out of the base setup once we bought our own house and I do sometimes miss the cameraderie that existed in those days.A human kind of humanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12944399986334367708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-90002419186527381192009-12-27T22:26:27.130-08:002009-12-27T22:26:27.130-08:00Ah Carmen I have lived in the same house over 30 y...Ah Carmen I have lived in the same house over 30 years, and although I know all my neighbors I don't have a "chummy" relationship with any of them. It just seems people stay to themselves. Most of my friendships came though my work or with my children's schoolmates and friends parents.<br /><br />Volunteering is also a good way to meet new people ..I've met some nice people recently that way.<br /><br />Enjoyed the poem as always!Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoritihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08922525910685129822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-73120463936959481472009-12-27T17:04:30.533-08:002009-12-27T17:04:30.533-08:00What a lovely poem!
And a good thought too.
Well...What a lovely poem! <br />And a good thought too. <br />Well, it may be harder to make friends of your neighbours in a very big city. We used to live in Stockholm, the capital and largest city in Sweden, but about nine or ten years ago me moved to Norrkoping which is a smaller, middle-sized city. I feel there is a big difference in how people in general treat you in this smaller community. I think that they are actually friendlier and more open to a new aquaintance than in the larger city. But there are also differences in the way neighbours treat one another depending upon what kind of housing you live in. We used to live in an apartment house where I made friends with the other tentents. I could even leave my baby with two different neighbour-ladies if I needed to run out and buy something for ten minutes. For free. They did it out of kindness or "neighbourliness" in order to help me. Otherwise, young girls who work as baby-sitters only think about the money and only want to sit enough hours to earn money. It's not worth their time to help someone out under an hour.<br />Then we moved to a more well-to-do area where most people have a higher income and no young children. They are all in the middle of their careers and have no time to think of anyone else's small problems. I get absolutly no help at all with the children from any neighbours, and have to make "play-dates" with families we know through the children's school or music lessons. All the women work. As a "stay-at-home-mother", I am unusual in this neighbourhood. When I was growing up, most mothers stayed at home and helped each other. Career-opportunities for women may have their price.<br /><br />Nice to meet you!<br />I'll be back to visit another day.<br />Best wishes<br />AnnaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17926688000745346961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-3362640687954781062009-12-27T16:22:00.477-08:002009-12-27T16:22:00.477-08:00Lovely poem and very interesting to know the backg...Lovely poem and very interesting to know the background to it. I do feel for you. I think that's a good idea you have in the last verse!Welshcakes Limoncellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209759237794290941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-24695962010121464592009-12-27T15:34:25.310-08:002009-12-27T15:34:25.310-08:00What a lovely poem. I remember the days of living...What a lovely poem. I remember the days of living in base housing and knowing everyone and everyone visiting in and out of each other's homes. When I moved to suburbia, I knew none of my neighbors but now I live on a rural farm and have no neighbors. <br />So much meaning in what you have written.The Silver Age Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01135538968544231161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-49282218527733404612009-12-27T09:22:49.631-08:002009-12-27T09:22:49.631-08:00i love this poem, carmen!! one of the things i mis...i love this poem, carmen!! one of the things i missed most about my home town in indiana when i moved to ohio was the fact that people weren't neighborly here like back home. i've gotten used to it but still miss the over the fence talks, the walks to the library and the late night weenie roasts i had back there.julie kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02009127575536333064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-17229770363953141542009-12-27T09:14:04.804-08:002009-12-27T09:14:04.804-08:00A very clever poem. I hope the cookies work for yo...A very clever poem. I hope the cookies work for you. After four years with my expat friends, they now tell me they are returning to the UK. I will have to start again in the summer. It isn't easy.Glynis Peters https://www.blogger.com/profile/01175378917872403609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-22223291619443911512009-12-27T07:06:29.523-08:002009-12-27T07:06:29.523-08:00You are very wise, and of course it starts with us...You are very wise, and of course it starts with us.<br /><br />But it is hard at a certain age to get the motivation. That is wrong not at a certain age, I guess at any age it can be hard.<br /><br />People would love to be your friend Carmen I see you have so much to offer.<br /><br />Love Renee xoxoReneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11785932958464359112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-18616951868159291982009-12-27T06:20:07.634-08:002009-12-27T06:20:07.634-08:00Oh Carmen! This is Wonderfully said! You're ...Oh Carmen! This is Wonderfully said! You're Amazing!!! Happy weekend to you dear friend!!hughugsDonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00181520825012037531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-62102502920151862732009-12-27T06:01:49.071-08:002009-12-27T06:01:49.071-08:00Carmen- I posted a correction on clue R, as per yo...Carmen- I posted a correction on clue R, as per your keen eye, on the contest post yesterday. Sorry I didn't answer you personally.Sharkbyteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10139935335209860357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-26721329396384555192009-12-27T01:53:26.377-08:002009-12-27T01:53:26.377-08:00an urban lament!an urban lament!magiceyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17848851692951192508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-7900921784415093322009-12-26T20:28:46.412-08:002009-12-26T20:28:46.412-08:00is it a difference between urban and rural communi...is it a difference between urban and rural communities, i wonder? i want to have neighbours that are like family. i should make moreof an effort too, i guess.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-39879029161229134882009-12-26T18:22:14.397-08:002009-12-26T18:22:14.397-08:00We can probably all take a lesson from that poem! ...We can probably all take a lesson from that poem! I think it's easier to make friends in a neighborly way when we are younger, too. Your job sounds to me like it was really fascinating.Sharkbyteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10139935335209860357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-76010288382402164152009-12-26T18:20:59.583-08:002009-12-26T18:20:59.583-08:00We can probably all take a lesson from that poem! ...We can probably all take a lesson from that poem! I think it's easier to make friends in a neighborly way when we are younger, too. Your job sounds to me like it was really fascinating.Sharkbyteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10139935335209860357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-80667967499994591802009-12-26T17:51:15.800-08:002009-12-26T17:51:15.800-08:00Hi,
a poem which makes thoughtful.
Like Poetic S...Hi,<br /><br />a poem which makes thoughtful.<br /><br />Like Poetic Shutterbug mentioned in our society especially in bigger cities social life is no more that impressive like it has been fifty years ago. It's more about living on their own or perhaps you get once in a while a greeting from someone because you met them nearly daily while walking down the street.<br /><br />Cookies or eating seems to be the substitute of loneliness, they can make happy when nothing else is available.<br /><br />Sometimes we have to make the first step to a closer relationship with the "neighbors", can be disappointing in the beginning as it is with most of the rejections from other but there are always persons who like to get new contacts (they just don't do the first step by themselves :) )<br /><br />A CMF Spiky :)cornymanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03882774092714294260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-51109113512223216462009-12-26T17:27:01.738-08:002009-12-26T17:27:01.738-08:00I think you should take those homemade cookies and...I think you should take those homemade cookies and bring them here :D Unfortunately city life is usually not conducive to knowing your neighbors very well. I've lived in my place for 30 years so I know many neighbors but not all. I only want to know the "Hot" ones :DJoanne Olivierihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01856998108256408734noreply@blogger.com