tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post6137613839366241820..comments2024-03-22T02:19:36.295-07:00Comments on Carmen's Chronicles: GuiltyRNSANEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-53085482210539538192010-01-11T13:07:21.103-08:002010-01-11T13:07:21.103-08:00A human kind of human - well, my job ended ten
...A human kind of human - well, my job ended ten<br /> months ago, after 21 years, in the massive<br /> budget cuts in San Francisco. Even though I<br /> am 65, I am not ready to be put out to <br /> pasture. I am still hoping to find some<br /> consulting work, at the very least, though<br /> I miss working with the children. The work<br /> was never easy but it felt so special.<br /><br />ruma2008 - I am so glad I am reconnected with<br /> you. I put in your blog address again <br /> because, for some reason, I had stopped<br /> getting your wonderful photographs!<br /><br /> Thank you for your kind words. May we both<br /> have a wonderful year.RNSANEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-75913741973711484472010-01-11T12:32:49.879-08:002010-01-11T12:32:49.879-08:00I respect your contribution to society.
It is hol...I respect your contribution to society. <br />It is holy to be the friend of the weak.<br /><br /><br />Happy new year.<br /><br /><br />From the Far East. <br />Best regards.<br />rumarumahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08802179941417961681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-91451987181061759792010-01-09T02:01:37.113-08:002010-01-09T02:01:37.113-08:00Thank you RN for a very interesting post. I often...Thank you RN for a very interesting post. I often wondered about your work as a forensic nurse. It must have been heartbreaking some times to interview these children. It must be wonderfully rewarding knowing that what you are doing, really does have meaning.A human kind of humanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12944399986334367708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-91230646130468587472010-01-08T20:05:17.832-08:002010-01-08T20:05:17.832-08:00Hitesh Rawat - in the course of my 21 years as a
...Hitesh Rawat - in the course of my 21 years as a<br /> sexual assault nurse examiner and a child <br /> forenic interviewer, I've spent a good bit of<br /> time in courtrooms. Fortunately, I've never<br /> been for any other reason and, like you, I <br /> hope I never will. In the course of my <br /> employment, I was paid when I had to go to <br /> court. I will also be paid if I do some <br /> consulting or work as an expert witness. <br /> However, any cases that I must testify on<br /> as a retired nurse for the city, that I did<br /> while I was a nurse at the Child Sexual <br /> Abuse Agency, I won't be paid for. Regard-<br /> less, I feel I have an obligation, as the<br /> nurse who did a case, to testify.<br /><br />Liss - I always laugh when people ask me if I<br /> did my makeup myself? Like do I have my own<br /> makeup artist? I've been doing it for <br /> over fifty years so I've gotten pretty <br /> proficient..let's hope my vision holds out<br /> and that I don't develop tremors...then it<br /> will be a whole new me! <br /><br />schererart - you must be the angel, you paint<br /> them so beautifully! I think you walk among<br /> them! The work, both with adult and child<br /> victims of sexual assault, was wonderful,<br /> though difficult. Having worked in mental<br /> health for many years, I dealt better with<br /> the emotional issues. I had a harder time<br /> when the adults/children showed outward<br /> signs of physical trauma as well. Often<br /> with children, sexual abuse is perpetrated<br /> by those the children love and they are not<br /> even aware something bad has happened to<br /> them - but seeing little ones with cigarette<br /> burns on their bodies or bruises all over,<br /> that really got to me - as did some of the<br /> horrible stories of sex abuse. That is <br /> when debriefing with my fellow nurses really<br /> was so important. We always knew we could<br /> call each other at any time of the day or<br /> night if we needed.<br /><br />Woman in a Window - thankfully, there were <br /> times to laugh and we shed a few tears at<br /> times, when we were away from our patients.<br /><br />Ayie - it was a tough job but I did love it. <br /> Glad you like my makeup skills!!RNSANEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-60891353508821480722010-01-08T19:45:04.282-08:002010-01-08T19:45:04.282-08:00Bernie - I certainly have lots of stories I can
...Bernie - I certainly have lots of stories I can<br /> tell! You're right about me, you know, I am<br /> full of mischief, even at 65, and I do love a<br /> good time!<br /><br />Icy BC - I haven't talked to the DA yet - will <br /> send her an email this weekend about my time<br /> constraints.<br /><br />My Farmhouse Kitchen - for about fifteen <br /> consecutive years, I've attended an annual<br /> CA Sexual Assault Investigators conference<br /> that takes place every spring at the Cliffs<br /> at Shell Beach. Not sure I'll make the one<br /> in Mar since my job loss & retirement have<br /> made me a pauper. We always tried to make<br /> it to the farmer's market and usually ate<br /> at Rosa's, McClintock's or Jocko's and a <br /> few other local places. Of course, during<br /> the recent two years my son was at Cal Poly,<br /> we also went to Firestone Grill!RNSANEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-87919586597849088262010-01-08T16:08:13.710-08:002010-01-08T16:08:13.710-08:00that's a tough job!
i love your smile and y...that's a tough job! <br /><br />i love your smile and your eyes, they simply sparkle!Ayiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04210270230117772912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-52171291252257988502010-01-08T14:43:25.988-08:002010-01-08T14:43:25.988-08:00I braced myself when you started the post because ...I braced myself when you started the post because of the nature of your career. I'm glad that there was levity in amongst all of the pain. <br />xo<br />erinWoman in a Windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14747858840088922077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-55135819575533229212010-01-08T10:11:54.396-08:002010-01-08T10:11:54.396-08:00You are indeed a special person to do a job like t...You are indeed a special person to do a job like that. An angel in human form. The eyeshadow only heightens the sparkle in your eyes.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04462378600522778350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-90823857079109635412010-01-08T03:41:11.725-08:002010-01-08T03:41:11.725-08:00The eyeshadow works on you. Not everyone can look ...The eyeshadow works on you. Not everyone can look as stylish as you wearing all those colours. Heck, I don't think I can apply eyeshadow that well, but I do have a sparkly eye shadow that I were out some times.<br /><br />I think it takes an extremely special person to do a job like yours.Memories Of Minehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13372908229050942550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-49270622696431788252010-01-07T22:30:30.985-08:002010-01-07T22:30:30.985-08:00well first thing, i have never seen a courtroom an...well first thing, i have never seen a courtroom and not willing to for rest of my life..... :)<br /><br />sexually abused kids???/ am i getting it rite?? if yea....i think it would be really difficult to work around them.....<br /><br />and getting paid to testifying.....that's something new i heard......Hitesh Rawathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11445682649449414508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-20106480302110633242010-01-07T17:11:32.494-08:002010-01-07T17:11:32.494-08:00Carmen..hello friend..so glad you stopped by Farmh...Carmen..hello friend..so glad you stopped by Farmhouse.....and YES ! they do have farmers market in the winter...it is starting in a little less than an hour...starts at 6..goes every Thursday unless it is Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Years...<br /><br />we are not going tonight..we can walk down in 5 minutes from where we live...we live across the street from The Del Monte Cafe on Upham Street if you know San Luis...<br /><br />but next Thursday is Snow Night..we usually go to that...but first we have a nice glass of red wine....hmmmmmm<br /><br />more later...<br /><br />fondly,<br />kary in sloMy Farmhouse Kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00594238190107766755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-57105925574370431602010-01-07T13:40:37.772-08:002010-01-07T13:40:37.772-08:00Oh- I want to be as guilty as you!!!
:)Oh- I want to be as guilty as you!!!<br />:)Dulçe ♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/14958592985938279356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-81175247063365662892010-01-07T13:25:48.336-08:002010-01-07T13:25:48.336-08:00I like the children's remark about your eyes, ...I like the children's remark about your eyes, and your job is really interesting to know. I couldn't do that because my emotional will be on a roller coaster..<br /><br />Hope the trial in January works out for you, Carmen!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-48018088687000982152010-01-07T12:45:54.333-08:002010-01-07T12:45:54.333-08:00I also want to add that your eyes reflect kindness...I also want to add that your eyes reflect kindness and caring. And quite a bit of mischief and love of a good time.Berniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189300487828240620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-6061205947083430592010-01-07T12:42:42.868-08:002010-01-07T12:42:42.868-08:00What a fascinating person you are. I shall look f...What a fascinating person you are. I shall look forward to hearing more of your stories about your work and your travels!Berniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189300487828240620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-8451525735401542412010-01-07T12:16:44.843-08:002010-01-07T12:16:44.843-08:00Alaine - I cannot tell you how much the support
...Alaine - I cannot tell you how much the support<br /> of my colleagues, all over the world, helped<br /> in this work! <br /><br /> I love all the eyeshadow. The golds are some<br /> of my favorites!<br /><br />Glynis - I think all areas of nursing can be<br /> difficult but working in interpersonal <br /> violence has its own set of issues. Kids<br /> are so amazing, though, in their ability to<br /> endure, especially is someone believes them.<br /><br />Sharkbytes - there are so many areas of forensic<br /> nursing. Mine was primarily sexual assault<br /> but I really wanted to be in death investi-<br /> gation - they didn't use nurses in this role<br /> in San Francisco though I took so many <br /> courses to prepare myself!<br /><br /> I started really doing my eyes when I worked<br /> in the operating room and that was all that<br /> showed. Patients really liked it.RNSANEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-66664387914214167312010-01-07T12:11:35.103-08:002010-01-07T12:11:35.103-08:00You just never know what a kid will say!
I think ...You just never know what a kid will say!<br /><br />I think it's nice to be remembered for your eyes! That means the child was actually looking at you.<br /><br />It's surprising you don't get paid to come to court and/or be on call. That's a kink in the system that doesn't seem fair. but I remember being on jury duty in San Francisco and the parking fee was higher than the "wage" I was paid to attend. Ugh!<br /><br />Have a great time in SF!<br />xoJoanna Jenkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10836376588710862173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-6289446077295842072010-01-07T12:02:35.669-08:002010-01-07T12:02:35.669-08:00Carmen- I love hearing about the things you did on...Carmen- I love hearing about the things you did on your job. I'm learning what a forensic nurse does. And your eyes are indeed memorable.Sharkbytes (TM)https://www.blogger.com/profile/08379841586422814410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-36084627257924623322010-01-07T11:46:53.223-08:002010-01-07T11:46:53.223-08:00As a nurse, I understand your need to not think ab...As a nurse, I understand your need to not think about your cases. I think your job must have been a tough one because of what your patient's have been through. It is not a position I would apply for.<br />I did love the stories, children are great for their little quips.Glynis Peters https://www.blogger.com/profile/01175378917872403609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-17052060081710371562010-01-07T11:46:04.226-08:002010-01-07T11:46:04.226-08:00An interesting yet heart-wrenching job. I'm s...An interesting yet heart-wrenching job. I'm so glad you took care of yourself. Love the photos, particularly the middle one with the goldy shadow. xaalaine@éclectiquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14367208674281749257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-83742741012982903792010-01-07T11:41:47.557-08:002010-01-07T11:41:47.557-08:00Maggie May - it's funny, I get compliments on ...Maggie May - it's funny, I get compliments on <br /> my eyes from all sorts of folks, old men on<br /> the streets, teenage girls, children! It's<br /> great fun.<br /><br /> Children do come out with funny things. <br /> They are so wonderfully spontaneous.<br /><br />Breeze - Though very sad at times, I have loved<br /> my work. I still mourn the loss of my job,<br /> ten months later.<br /><br />lakeviewer - I could definitely tell a lot of<br /> stories. Nothing I hear surprises me any-<br /> more. <br /><br />Bernie - litte ones, especially, really tell<br /> it like it is! <br /><br />Tongue Trip - we had to keep a sense of humour<br /> in that work - though, when interviewing, we<br /> had to maintain a straight face! Sometimes,<br /> it was hard not to laugh or to cry! <br /><br /> Glad you like the smile!RNSANEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-54668901192759665272010-01-07T11:19:12.547-08:002010-01-07T11:19:12.547-08:00i dig your sense of humour.you made me laugh and s...i dig your sense of humour.you made me laugh and smile all through. talking of smiles, yours is dazzling. loved the lighthearted post. :) tataTongue Triphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17357978662867516949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-35060114454289407162010-01-07T10:26:41.334-08:002010-01-07T10:26:41.334-08:00Your job sounds so interesting....and oh yeah out ...Your job sounds so interesting....and oh yeah out of the mouths of babes.....they are always so observant and don't hesitate to tell you what they are thinking...I love kids.....:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-81682443072001821462010-01-07T10:20:37.858-08:002010-01-07T10:20:37.858-08:00You got stories to tell, books to write.You got stories to tell, books to write.Rosaria Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03133147851332084180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35775558.post-89797043989286959152010-01-07T10:01:18.408-08:002010-01-07T10:01:18.408-08:00Oh my kids are funny! But what a wonderful career...Oh my kids are funny! But what a wonderful career you've had, helping children who need help the most! <br /><br />BreezeCarolyn R. Parsonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14529999558075983828noreply@blogger.com